You were born to stand out.
Everyone is meant to stand out. This does not mean everyone was meant to be famous.
It means you are meant to stand out as unique and different from others - by being you.
We are all meant to live a life that is authentic to who we are. To never stand behind others out of fear. Or ignore our gifts, talents, desires and needs because of others.
Standing out is to believe that every day you matter. That you were put here for a purpose.
To stop letting others tell you who you are. Or what you should do.
So, for short: standing out is being you. Un-apologetically you.
But this isn’t always easy. In fact, I would say it is the hardest thing you will ever do.
Even harder than raising a teenager….
If it is that hard, why do it?
Because the benefits of living life true to yourself are inner peace, joy and more ease.
And those are things worthy of the tough work.
How exactly do you do this?
By focusing on loving yourself.
The more we unconditionally love ourselves the more we allow ourselves to stand out and shine.
But self-love is much more than saying a few affirmations, picking out a great outfit or doing something nice for ourselves.
While those all work, life changing self-love is achieved through emotional healing work.
So where do you even start to begin with something this big?
Start With What is in Front of You
You don’t have to go digging for what you think are the big blocks. No need to rehash everything that has ever happened to you. Instead allow your higher source to guide you to what you need right now. What you are ready to start healing.
If the problem that keeps showing up, is you are always late. And this is impacting your relationships, then start healing why you are late. This can uncover everything from perfectionism to an experience you completely forgot about.
As you work through what is right in front of you, then you will eventually work though all the healing you need. This will bring you more self-love with each thing you heal.
Supporting Yourself During Emotional Healing
While emotional healing can help with learning to love yourself, it is also difficult work. Finding ways to nurture yourself along the way is helpful to sustaining progress. The following are some ways you can support yourself.
Self-Compassion
Compassion is made up of three parts:
- Understanding – allow yourself to be more understanding about where you are instead of judging yourself.
- Know that you are not alone – others have experienced what you have. Or at least very close to what you are experiencing. Reach out and ask for help.
- · Awareness of when we are being harsh on ourselves. It is easy to get trapped in our negative thoughts or harmful patterns. By paying attention to when we are being negative, we can begin to change that to positive thoughts.
One of the easiest ways to see all this, is when you notice you are judging yourself or being harsh to yourself. Stop and ask yourself:
What would I tell my best friend/kids/partner?
This takes the focus off you. It allows you to see the situation from a different perspective. By understanding how you would guide someone you love, you can see how you are being hard on yourself.
Need help with self-compassion? I recommend Dr. Kristen Neff's book on it.
Energy Healing
As you clear emotional wounds you can leave residual energetic gunk (yes, that is a technical term. 😉) So, even though you have cleared old trauma you may still feel bad. Doing energy clearing such as Reiki can help you with removing the old stuff just hanging out.
Take Breaks
You can overdo it when working on emotional healing. Instead of pushing and creating a healing crisis take breaks. Clear something big? Take a week off.
If something feels overwhelming, don’t push through just because you are on a schedule. Listen to the subtle cues from your body and emotions on when you need to not do any healing work. This will not only support you but also help you learn how to pay attention to what your body is trying to communicate. Which will have benefits beyond this!
If you are stuck on any of this, ask for help. You don’t have to do it alone.
You got this,
Andrea
Recommended Resources
Emotional Healing Tools - this article has my favorite emotional healing tools.
13 Energy Healing Types - beyond Reiki there are other options. Learn about them in this article.
Self Compassion Guided Meditation https://youtu.be/a9CA_vL48O0
When you are ready, here 3 ways I can help!
- Energy and Spiritual Healing - Feel like something is off but can't figure it out? It may be time for an energy clean-up.
- Ready for more help? Coaching and mentorship is a great way to explore your purpose and what is blocking it on a regular basis. Explore Package options.
- Spiritual Guidance Answers- stuck and can't seem to figure out what to do next? I can help by connecting with your guides. Using a combination of tarot, shamanic journeying and channeling.
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